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Stanley Wotring's avatar

This piece speaks to me. Also I often hold both sides of the conversation in my mind so then don’t feel the need to engage.

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Duane Toops's avatar

Thank you! That's a good idea, I'll have to give that a try

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Carolyn Jones's avatar

A great piece, Duane. I'm bad at people-ing. I don't reach out. I feel awkward and guilty when people do… Sometimes there has been too much distance… too many bad times… And it's not (always) because you don't want to interact…

It's because you've nothing to say… Nothing positive anyway. Nothing you'd want announced at your arrival.

There is a pain to moving on when you realise that everyone else left the highway and settled into a cosy three bedroom house when you're still filling up at the gas station. Do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Every time you're about to reach your destination, the sat nav recalliberises, sending you in another direction. You envy those with shortcuts while you're on a lifetime detour.

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Duane Toops's avatar

Exactlyt this, exactly!

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Mahira S.'s avatar

I have a feeling you might enjoy a book titled ‘the dictionary of obscure sorrows’ by john koenig

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Duane Toops's avatar

That's been on my list for a while! Thanks for reminding me! I really do need to read it! Thanks again!

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Mahira S.'s avatar

Of course! It truly is mesmerising.

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